Ouch! Son’s Brutal Obituary For Dead
Father… He Lived “A Long Life, Much
Longer Than He Deserved”
Blue State Conservative,
by
Jordan Case
Original Article
Posted By: AmericaFirstAlways,
7/8/2022 9:17:45 AM
Millions of children around the world grow up fatherless, and in America this phenomenon can be cited as a significant factor in the deterioration of both our culture and our society. Fatherhood, and more importantly fathers themselves, are critical. For those of us who were fortunate to have had a father who helped raise us, most can point to multiple instances of friction and conflict over the years. Fathers, like all human beings, are imperfect and the relationships they have with their children can be complex.
Yet in most cases, particularly when the father is nearing the end of his life, bygones are put aside,
Reply 1 - Posted by:
TexaTucky 7/8/2022 9:30:34 AM (No. 1209897)
"Writing the obituary was a process of healing from his childhood trauma, his son, Lawrence Pfaff Jr., told NBC News."
If Junior thinks this is evidence of healing, he has more therapy in his future.
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Reply 2 - Posted by:
Rand Al'Thor 7/8/2022 9:34:36 AM (No. 1209900)
A cheap shot at someone that can't respond. Should have been addressed before he died, or not at all.
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Reply 3 - Posted by:
Lazyman 7/8/2022 9:35:07 AM (No. 1209901)
He managed to get his side of the story in. Must be a democrat because they don't like logical discourse.
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Meh.
We had an abusive drug addict family member, not my parents. Lived OK on a small trust. When she finally died, we did nothing. Didn’t claim her body at the hospital, no Shiva, no obituary, no probate.
Just shook the dirt off our feet and didn’t look back. No clue what happened to her body, stuff, or anything else.
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Reply 5 - Posted by:
vhs68 7/8/2022 10:12:53 AM (No. 1209943)
Why wasn't the actual obituary published in the article? Thats what the article was actually about!! Or was it?
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Reply 6 - Posted by:
ControlFreak 7/8/2022 10:20:30 AM (No. 1209952)
I know a woman whose father abused her physically and sexually as a child into her turbulent teenage years. As an adult, she found a way to put that aside and support him financially for the last ten years of his life and to care for him when he was dying. This cruel man got in one last jab and disowned her in his will and removed her as beneficiary in his life insurance, leaving her siblings who were of no help to benefit. I wish she would have written an obituary such as this one, but I guess she had too much class for that.
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Reply 7 - Posted by:
chumley 7/8/2022 10:27:03 AM (No. 1209959)
Knew a guy just like that. He died in 2016. He lived in a welfare apartment because his entire family hated him, and for good reason. I tried to help him out and could only stand him for three months, 2-1/2 of which he made pure Hell. Nobody claimed the body, there was no funeral or obituary. No idea who got his stuff. Probably the landlord.
If they buried him, probably only Poison Ivy and Hemlock grow in the spot.
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Reply 8 - Posted by:
Laotzu 7/8/2022 10:35:14 AM (No. 1209965)
Little sympathy for an adult complaining about inflicting pain on "adult children."
I do sympathize with the choice to sever relations with a father who was abusive in childhood. Earlier this year, I chose not to visit my father in hospice or attend his funeral, which I paid for. A few days later, I was watching The Walking Dead and heard this soliloquy: "I was not at his deathbed, Rick. I did not grant him that. And to this day I do not regret it. Some men do not earn the love of their sons." TWD S2.
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Reply 9 - Posted by:
Hazymac 7/8/2022 10:41:30 AM (No. 1209969)
Most of us don't know or even want to know about either generation of this family, or what brought about this parting shot at Dad. However, there is the Fifth Commandment to consider. Honor thy father and thy mother. Scripture doesn't mention any conditions on this Commandment.
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Reply 10 - Posted by:
angelgrammi 7/8/2022 11:49:18 AM (No. 1210056)
Here's the link https://www.jacksonville.com/obituaries/pfla0245589
Several years ago a pain-filled obit was written for Dolores Aguilar by one of her daughters. Reading it was an excellent reminder that what we do in life affects our families profoundly.
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Reply 11 - Posted by:
zephyrgirl 7/8/2022 11:57:25 AM (No. 1210063)
Some people need to wallow in their bitterness, but it doesn't hurt the deceased, just the one who wrote it.
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Reply 12 - Posted by:
Kate318 7/8/2022 12:52:45 PM (No. 1210105)
Not all children have good relationships with their parents. I read a great deal of pain in that young man’s obituary. My heart goes out to him. I will not judge.
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Reply 13 - Posted by:
kbcama 7/8/2022 12:58:35 PM (No. 1210114)
My dad walked out of our lives when I was 8. There were 4 children living and one child died at 2 months. Sudden infant death... It destroyed both my parents. My dad had 3 other children which we discovered when one contacted my older brother, a Jr with the same name, about health concerns. Dad had died but not before making their lives a living he-- by constantly telling them how perfect his other children (me & my siblings) were. I told her that we were so perfect he left us and never contacted us again or helped support us! My mom was also effected by that child's death. She wasn't much of a mom - drank and would disappear with men for several days. As the oldest daughter I began cooking, cleaning, mothering as a preteen and tried to hold the family together one step ahead of DHS in wharever welfare state we were living in (we moved often to keep ine step ahead of them). When I learned Dad was dead it was like oh well. Mom was sick a long time and I helped take care of her. My siblings and I split the cost of her funeral. I helped write her obituary which wasnot filled wiyh glowing loveliness but just stated the factsvof her life and our names as her children. It also did NOT state she wasn't the best mom! The one good thing that came of all this is the closeness the 4 of us have had all these years. Much closer than any of my friends' brothers and sisters are. We consider ourselves
fortunate to have had each all these years.
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Reply 14 - Posted by:
Catherine 7/8/2022 2:14:56 PM (No. 1210179)
When my mother died, I wanted to dance and sing at her coffin. Of course the place was packed with relatives who loved her and didn't really know her, so I played the grieving daughter. I still feel guilty at all the sympathy I got from well wishers. Printing such an obituary on her would have been so cathartic.
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Reply 15 - Posted by:
GirlwithaCurl 7/8/2022 2:49:22 PM (No. 1210207)
I had a bad Dad, too. But he was still my Dad.
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Reply 16 - Posted by:
judy 7/8/2022 5:30:27 PM (No. 1210315)
Thank God I had loving Christian parents who never uttered a negative word against each other.
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Reply 17 - Posted by:
anniebc 7/9/2022 2:07:41 PM (No. 1211145)
Parents can jack up their adult children. Children can go through life trying to see the best in their parents, only to realize in adulthood that their parents are not decent human beings. Children forgive parents for their wrongs when they are growing up with them, but when they become adults, they can just simply be spent. They have to process their way out, and maybe that's what's happening to this man. People are not as mentally, emotionally, or spiritually mature as they used to be. We're more selfish and self-centered. That swings both ways in parent-child relationships.
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Reply 18 - Posted by:
Luandir 7/9/2022 5:41:35 PM (No. 1211289)
Hunter Biden: "Hold my beer..."
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So sad.