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The Last Time I Saw My Dad

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Posted By: Boomer in the Basement, 12/29/2025 4:52:33 PM

Some Goodbyes Don’t Announce Themselves. Forty-nine years ago tonight, I had plans to meet up with friends—people I barely know anymore. Before leaving the house, I stopped by my dad’s room to say goodnight. He was lying in bed, recovering from hip surgery he’d had a couple of weeks earlier — after having slipped off a ladder. He was watching television to pass the time. Everyone who knew him admired him.

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Reply 1 - Posted by: zephyrgirl 12/29/2025 5:08:00 PM (No. 2046750)
You never get over losing a parent suddenly like that. The last time I saw my father, he was in the hospital after surgery. I had flown in to support him and my mother during and after the surgery. I kissed him, told him I loved him, and told him I'd be back to visit in a month or so, then walked to the door of his room. I turned to say one last goodbye, and he had the saddest look on his face. I think he knew we'd never see each other again. I sobbed as I walked to the elevator. He died a few weeks later, having never left the hospital. That was 43 years ago and I still regret not going back and hugging him one last time.
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Reply 2 - Posted by: cor-vet 12/29/2025 6:12:23 PM (No. 2046764)
We drove from South Louisiana to Sun City, Arizona every Thanksgiving for more than 25 years for a family get-together, and I called my dad almost every Sunday to talk. Something happened in 1996 and we missed the trip that year. On Christmas morning, at 8:00am, I got the call that dad had passed, from a massive heart attack. To this day, 29 years later, I still kick myself for not making that Thanksgiving trip!
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Reply 3 - Posted by: udanja99 12/29/2025 6:17:21 PM (No. 2046768)
The author and posters above were fortunate to have fathers who deserved their love. Not all of us did.
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Reply 4 - Posted by: Flyball Dogs 12/29/2025 6:26:56 PM (No. 2046770)
#3, if I recall your previous comments, you’ve lived a full life, in spite of your “daddy issues.” My utmost respect. I have a mixed relationship with my dad. He’ll be 99 in a few months, and for the most part, his mind and health are good. Mostly, I am grateful to have him. But I do understand some things of the angst in your comment.
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Reply 5 - Posted by: dcbroome 12/29/2025 7:25:54 PM (No. 2046783)
#3, I am 70 y/o. My ftr disowned me and my 4 siblings after my parents' divorce when I was in college. I found out he had died when I happened to google his name and found out he'd died several years before. He was a church-going intelligent electrical engineer for Lockheed Martin. As a parent myself (mom), I have never understood how someone could choose to never see his children again
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Reply 6 - Posted by: mariboo72 12/29/2025 9:34:29 PM (No. 2046807)
The author's story is so similar to mine. My mom died the day after Christmas in 1973. Christmas Day she had not been feeling well and she complained of pain in the back of her leg. I was a young mom in my early twenties and I knew nothing about deep vein thrombosis. My last memory of her was when we left that evening. She was holding our 7 month old baby, smiling and bouncing him on her knee. We got a phone call from my sister at two o'clock in the morning saying Mom had suffered a massive cerebral hemorrhage. She died a few hours later. I didn't go into her hospital room to see her. There was nothing left unsaid between us. We always expressed our love to each other. I wanted my last memory of her to be her smiling, holding my baby.
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