'I don't hate my son, I just hate being
a mother': Women who regret having children
reveal how they feel trapped, count the
hours until bedtime and have a 'soul
craving for a quiet life'
Daily Mail (UK),
by
Maria Chiorando
Original Article
Posted By: Beardo,
7/19/2022 4:23:50 PM
Numerous women have spoken about their regrets over having children, with some saying the 'hate' motherhood, and others revealing they don't like their kids.
The reluctant parents, from around the world, have shared their stories anonymously in a Facebook group called I Regret Having Children.
Those who have posted in the group opened up about the social pressure to have children, as well as pressure from loved ones, the struggles in caring for kids with developmental disorders, and their own mental health battles.
Reply 1 - Posted by:
pros7767 7/19/2022 4:27:05 PM (No. 1221467)
Those poor kids! I can't imagine my life without mine!
29 people like this.
We suicide legal for these people.
6 people like this.
Reply 3 - Posted by:
zephyrgirl 7/19/2022 4:33:07 PM (No. 1221485)
Not everyone is cut out to be a parent. Parenting is a two-person job for a mother and a father who should be married.
38 people like this.
Reply 4 - Posted by:
LC Chihuahua 7/19/2022 4:36:02 PM (No. 1221493)
They hate their children? Guaranteed, many of these children hate their parents in return.
Agree some people should not have children.
31 people like this.
Reply 5 - Posted by:
NorthernDog 7/19/2022 4:36:51 PM (No. 1221494)
Sounds like most of them do not have a reliable husband or extended family members/friends that can help. You can meet other new mothers at playgrounds, church events, etc...to commiserate and focus on the positive aspects of motherhood.
18 people like this.
Reply 6 - Posted by:
Nimby 7/19/2022 4:37:17 PM (No. 1221495)
Why didn't they give up for adoption?
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Reply 7 - Posted by:
Robert Jones 7/19/2022 4:40:45 PM (No. 1221497)
With all the social programs to take care of you, cf. medicare, social security, welfare, kids really are unnecessary. But in the "good ole days" your children were your retirement. Take care of them, teach them well, and in your old age you would have social and financial support. Now your kids are unnecessary. No wonder children are so lousy. They are a waste of time and money.
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Reply 8 - Posted by:
mifla 7/19/2022 4:45:36 PM (No. 1221504)
Do these people know the causal relationship between sex and children?
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Reply 9 - Posted by:
Yepper 7/19/2022 4:52:20 PM (No. 1221514)
I despise these MF's, both men and women who are not happy about being a parent. The world will be a better place the moment they drop dead.
15 people like this.
Reply 10 - Posted by:
GoodDeal 7/19/2022 4:52:55 PM (No. 1221515)
Some women got an A in Mom School. Those same women got an F- in Good Wife School. Why is it that there can't be a majority of women that make good moms and good wives all at the same time? Those that can are already taken. Those that are left are many and all around. To find a good one is like finding a new car in a junkyard these days. Might have a few extra miles but still in like new condition. I am still looking.
12 people like this.
Reply 11 - Posted by:
lakerman1 7/19/2022 4:55:24 PM (No. 1221520)
In the Catholic faith I grew up with, marriage was a vocation. And a vocation was, by definition, something a person worked at.
If I understood the nuns correctly, a person who did not become a nun or a priest - each a vocation - should get married,. and have children. And all of that was God's plan for all of us Catholics. (Non-Catholics were not covered by God's plan, because they would all burn in hell, because they were not Catholics.)(Nuns were pretty sure of themselves in those days. pre Vatican II, but post Vatican II many of them became enlightened, and quit. or threw away their wimples.)
It would be really interesting to know what kind of mother each of these unhappy facebook complainers had. I suspect they might have had mothers as unhappy as they are.
But regardless of that, I feel so terribly sorry for their little children. Jesus had special words of instruction for how we should treat children.
He cannot be happy with these women.
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Reply 12 - Posted by:
Heil Liberals 7/19/2022 4:56:30 PM (No. 1221522)
Money quote, "'I have a partner, I can't stand him anymore, but I can't be a single mom, I can't be alone with my son. It's just hard.. thank you for reading."
She has a partner. Well, how quaint. She made a baby with a F buddy and now she hates him and hates her son because he reminds her of him.
If there is one thing that today's generation lacks, it is commitment. She doesn't have a husband; she has a partner. Well, that's a recipe for a long-term stable relationship that is necessary to raise well-adjusted children.
20 people like this.
Reply 13 - Posted by:
Corndoggies 7/19/2022 5:07:08 PM (No. 1221535)
Women have been told for generations they can have it all, a career and children. Don’t need a husband either. Then they try to have it all and find out it’s hard work. Life is hard anyway you do it but alone is the worst way possible.
14 people like this.
Reply 14 - Posted by:
oldmagnolia 7/19/2022 5:11:09 PM (No. 1221540)
If these women don't want children, just tie your fallopian tubes or have a hysterectomy. Problem solved. Then (as bad as it sounds) they can keep their legs open all they want.
12 people like this.
Reply 15 - Posted by:
jalo1951 7/19/2022 5:17:42 PM (No. 1221545)
I have a sister like this. She has a son and a daughter. She has no emotional connection with either one, she never wanted to be a mother but her husband wanted children. Please talk these matters over before you marry so you know where you stand. She has been married four times and has trouble bonding with anyone. Her latest husband has been with her for over 10 years so maybe she finally found the right person. Her son is doing pretty well, married with a family, educated and a good job. Her daughter on the other hand suffers from some emotional issues. Luckily she knew early on she did not want children and got her tubes tied. She is married and still has issues but is working with mental health professionals. My sister never physically hurt her children but she scarred them emotionally as she was scarred herself. Be true to yourself. Do not become a parent if you truly don't want to go down that path. And practice safe sex. My niece and nephew do have a good relationship with their father which has been a blessing for them. I have always told my son I would jump in front of a train to save his life. My sister would simply stand there and watch. Sad for all of them. If your own mother doesn't love you are you worth love from anyone? That is how my niece feels.
17 people like this.
Reply 16 - Posted by:
Highlander 7/19/2022 5:18:39 PM (No. 1221546)
True love is outer directed where the mother puts her children’s needs before her own. I’m not talking about neglecting your mind, body, and soul, but having a selfish attitude makes every aspect of child raising a drudgery. Being a parent is a sacrifice you must be willing to make.
12 people like this.
Reply 17 - Posted by:
padiva 7/19/2022 5:19:44 PM (No. 1221549)
#10, I failed at the good wife school when I realized my former husband was a selfish lazy idiot.
9 people like this.
Reply 18 - Posted by:
DVC 7/19/2022 5:22:11 PM (No. 1221555)
How sad. What a miserable, selfish person she is.
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Reply 19 - Posted by:
Strike3 7/19/2022 5:28:30 PM (No. 1221568)
I hear that statement quite often but never from Asian parents, Jus' sayin'
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Reply 20 - Posted by:
Sully 7/19/2022 5:29:59 PM (No. 1221569)
This a modern sickness. When you have that 1st baby, that little one is the center of your world and you just can't believe you ever had a life without them.
But if you are the center of your world, I see how that could be an unresolvable conflict for you. Sad and pathetic.
Who on Earth would marry such a woman?
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Reply 21 - Posted by:
skacmar 7/19/2022 6:23:07 PM (No. 1221649)
Babies and young children are selfish little despots that demand your time and attention. Luckily, they outgrow this (usually, if you are a good parent) to be responsible older children then self sufficient older children / teens. Sounds like a lot of these parents (not just the mothers) never outgrew the selfish despot demanding all of the attention stage. When you have kids you need to learn that it is not about you all of the time. Think hard and long before having kids as you will have to make a lot of hard choices and decisions. Many of todays younger parents get too stressed over silly things trying to be perfect parents and jumping at every request and demand of their children. Learn to say no, let them cry, and figure stuff out by themselves. It will make your life easier and make you resent your kids less.
6 people like this.
Reply 22 - Posted by:
DCGIRL 7/19/2022 6:40:33 PM (No. 1221675)
Then put these children up for adoption.
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Reply 23 - Posted by:
franq 7/19/2022 6:43:31 PM (No. 1221681)
"....without natural affection..." is a characteristic of people in the End Times.
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Reply 24 - Posted by:
Faithfully 7/19/2022 6:52:15 PM (No. 1221696)
There was a similar duffus article in the 70's when I was expecting my first child. The woman actually said she regretted having a child when, while holding her infant, her child grabbed and broke her string of pearls. Can you imagine how that child was raised?
5 people like this.
Reply 25 - Posted by:
Kate318 7/19/2022 7:34:46 PM (No. 1221774)
I guarantee you they all vote democrat.
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Reply 26 - Posted by:
pixelero 7/19/2022 7:47:17 PM (No. 1221786)
Lame. Weak. Stupid. Shallow. Selfish. Hmm. Lemme see what else the ol’ Crystal Ball of Having It Up To Here tells me…
Also it’s from a UK paper, with France, a nation that’s successfully culled every chromosome of bravery or good sense from its population through sending their best to die in one war after another for 500 years. It’s just a FLESH WOUND!
“Oi don' ‘ate moi son, oi jus’ ‘ate bein’
a muvvah,” roight Mum, roight av rain.
Inbred déclassé idiot.
4 people like this.
Reply 27 - Posted by:
Jesuslover54 7/19/2022 8:00:30 PM (No. 1221805)
This article sponsored by Planned Parenthood.
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Reply 28 - Posted by:
pixelero 7/19/2022 8:02:23 PM (No. 1221808)
All right all right all right; she wasn’t a Brit. My bad.
After carefully reading the article I find it all even more ludicrous.
Yeah your kids show less affection as they get older and as you get older. They’re doing this thing called GROWING UP. Adolescence and for that matter childhood are no picnic. And young adulthood in this era? If they even MAKE it to adulthood?
What an absolute cluster of imbeciles. What do you think being a parent IS, an endless series of encouragement, reward, and personal, emotional gratification?
Probably not. But MAYBE, if you’re honest and engaged and affectionate.
Seriously what has happened to courage, selflessness, and taking the long view of life?
These people. Cause, meet effect.
3 people like this.
Reply 29 - Posted by:
ARKfamily 7/20/2022 8:17:01 AM (No. 1222235)
It is simple - a person can view a baby as a blessing or a burden. I imagine if you belong to the Facebook Group, "I Regret Having Children," you are a very self-centered person. Only thinking of yourself. Did you know that having sex can get you pregnant? I guess in this self-centered society, sex is a right. . .
2 people like this.
Reply 30 - Posted by:
Gina 7/20/2022 8:29:21 AM (No. 1222253)
When they get old they may find that their children have no time for them when they need them.
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Reply 31 - Posted by:
CivilServant 7/20/2022 9:00:19 AM (No. 1222298)
%80 of the comments were more about their lousy choices in men.
“But he was SOOOO COOOL and mysterious and quiet and sexy….”
3 people like this.
Reply 32 - Posted by:
cheeflo 7/20/2022 9:59:30 AM (No. 1222376)
Well, if you weren’t going to practice birth control, then you should have kept your knees together, sweetie.
1 person likes this.
My own mother fit that description perfectly. At the end of her life, only one of her four children spoke to her on a regular basis.
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